My Holidays were hectic but very nice overall. In mid December, my area got close to a foot of snow. For Southerners, that’s like having a blizzard! As beautiful as it was, it took days for my side street to be safe enough for travel. About the time I got caught up on my rescheduled sessions, it was time to start Christmas shopping. I truly enjoyed spending time with my blood family over the Holidays. There was less of us this year but everyone got along! That was the biggest gift of them all. I also want to thank all my lovely subs who sent me gifts and tributes for the Holidays. I will truly enjoy them.
I chose to have a quiet New Year Eve celebration. I took some time to just relax with a couple glasses of wine. I wanted to appreciate the many blessings I have in my life. After my family’s traditional New Year Dinner, I took some time to reflect on this past year, and wrote down my thoughts in my journal.
This past year certainly had its high and low points. What stands out for me in 2018 was when the FOSTA/SESTA bills were voted into action. We saw the end of the adult section on Craigslist, BP, and the other smaller sites. Human trafficking needs to end but taking away their visibility makes them harder to find? These bills have also affected people who had nothing to do with these criminals. Including many in the Domination business like myself. I started as a part time Dominatrix in the 1990s while still working a full time vanilla job. It was not until around 2003 that I finally felt ready to become a full time Dominatrix. I assumed that as time passed that society would become more open minded and compassionate toward people with different sexual orientations and what I do. I thought our country would progress not regress but sadly, I was wrong.
So 2018 became a year of adaption because either I could retire or I had to work smarter. I chose the latter but with it brought many changes, challenges, failures and triumphs. Through it all, I have grown a lot as a Mistress and overall, I have become a much wiser Woman. There might be more battles ahead but I will never stop fighting for what I love and believe in. I am very fortunate to have the support and guidance of so many wonderful friends, subs and my chosen family (Thank You!). When I get frustrated or ready to say, “fuck it” I remind myself how truly blessed I am.
My website, MistressEvaLordes.com was totally redesigned by ME which I am very proud of. So I no longer need to pay someone to update my websites. I began this blog which is still in the beginning stages. I am still revamping my other blog, DommeEmpire.com and it should be done in about a month.
I finally bit the bullet this year and began to produce and sell my own BDSM video clips. This is an area of expertise that I am still having to learn from the bottom up. There is a lot more work involved in it than most people realize. To the ones kicking ass producing clips, I salute you! I am still learning about video production and editing. I hope to invest in a new video camera and a better video editing software this year. I have made sixteen Fetish POV and BDSM clips so far. I am in the planning phase to produce many more clips this year
I am still kicking ass on Niteflirt. I wish I could thank the sub who in 2000 asked me if I was on that site. Because at that point I had never heard of Niteflirt or even considered doing Phone Domination. He thought I would be good at it and he was right. I have so much fun with it!
This past summer, North Carolina was hit by both Hurricane Florence and Michael. Our area got record breaking rain and the Triangle ended up having the wettest year on record. Except for my basement flooding some, I had no damage to my property. I feel very fortunate because my state’s southern coastline got devastated. My heart goes out to them as many are still rebuilding their lives.
Last but never least, my beautiful feline Queen Taz was diagnosed with advanced kidney failure in March 2018. She fought a hard fight but at age Seventeen, it was her time to go over the rainbow bridge. I had rescued her litter when they were only two weeks old. The moment I saw her, that little puffball stole my heart. I was still working over 40 hours a week at the time, but somehow I was able to bottle feed and ween them. The others found loving homes. She stayed by my side much longer than many of my lovers did. At my lowest, she would lay on my chest and stare down at me with her wise “Yoda” look. She was always there to remind me that everything was going to be OK. I will always love and miss her. I now have Gilbert and Beau, two big furry boys that I adopted from a local kill shelter.
To wrap things up. As hard as 2018 was for me, there were many good things that happened too. I have grown and discovered things about myself that I never expected. I am much more stronger and resilient than I ever realized. I am thankful for the people who have positively impacted my life. I also realized it was time to let go of situations and people who no longer served me. As I enter this near year, I bring more confidence and hope with me. With a new year, comes a chance for new beginnings. I am excited to see what reflections I will be writing about next year.
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