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Stuck at home? Virtual sessions are still available.

Wash your hands and keep your paws to yourself! Mistress Eva Lordes

With more cases of the COVID-19 virus being reported around North Carolina, I have decided to suspend all BDSM classes and in-call sessions at my Dungeon for the time being. I am doing this to protect my subs, family, and myself from potential exposure. The safety and discretion of my subs has been and will always be, my top priority. I am hoping that this will only be a temporary measure. I will post updates and let you know when my Dungeon reopens.

Meanwhile, if you are stuck at home, bored, horny, and need your Mistress, I am still available by appointment for Phone, Cam, and Chat Domination Sessions. Not only am I an experienced Dominatrix, I am also a highly rated Phone Mistress on Niteflirt. Which is still the safest erotic stimulation around! Major Credit/Debit Cards are accepted through their site. (They also accept money gift cards with the Visa or Mastercard logo on it. )


Here is a small sampling of some of the hot topics that I enjoy in my Virtual Domination Sessions:

FemDom, Erotic Hypnosis, Fetishes, Intox Play, Popper Play, FinDom, Humiliation, SPH, Jerk off Instructions, Orgasm Control, Sissy Training, Feminization, Pegging, Forced Bi, CEI, Chastity Training, BBC, Cuckolding, Fluffing, Cream Pies, CBT, Face Sitting, Ass Worship, Foot Fetish, Anal Training, Spanking, Corporal Punishment, Medical play and lots more. If you do not see your favorite kink listed, email me and ask me about it.

Phone Only: $1.49 per minute. Call 1-800-863-5478 ext: 9439577

Phone/Skype HD Cam: $2.49 per minute. Call 1-800-863-5478
ext: 10158303

You may send me a private message for more details.

Mistress Eva Lordes

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Sorry not sorry, I do not answer private numbers.

Subs, when you contact a Dominatrix, know that you will be required to give us some identifying information. I understand that many of you have families, friends and employers who would not understand your need to submit or your kinky fetishes. Part of submitting is TRUST. If you cannot trust your potential new Mistress, then possibly you are not really ready to serve her.

I recently had a new submissive contact me via email. Our interests meshed so I had set aside a time in my schedule to speak with him by phone. When he called, it came up as a private caller so I did not answer. I was hoping that caller was not him because in the past, subs who call from private number have proven themselves not trustworthy. Unfortunately, it was him. Not long after, he called again from a number with some weird company name.

I emailed him to explain why I did not answer his call. Why would I want to waste my limited free time speaking to a stranger who is obviously trying to contact me and possibly meet me without sharing any identification? Did he really think I would invite a complete stranger into my private play space which is full of SM gear? I can obviously hold my own but I will not knowingly put myself into risky situations. My safety is my own personal responsibility so I will not throw all caution to the wind to meet a new submissive client! You may be a great guy, but I have to get to know you like every other sub I meet. You may be mentally unstable for all I know? So I screen all my new subs before meeting them.

Even most vanilla women have enough common sense to get to know their new date’s name, age, location and phone number before meeting them!

So if trust is an issue, get to know me. I offer paid phone and cam sessions. I offer in person consults at public local spots so we can get to know each other. Trust has to flow both ways. Know that even if I feel comfortable with you, I will still require some identification to see you.

If you are interested in serving me but still nervous about setting up a live session, email me for more information about my Phone/Cam Sessions and in person consultations.

I also own a very informative website about my Domination Sessions, Virtual Sessions, and BDSM Classes. I even have my clips pay site linked there so you can see me in action.

Mistress Eva Lordes



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A new study on the biology of bdsm.

Between pleasure and pain: a pilot study on the biological mechanisms associated with BDSM interactions in dominants and submissives.

(I found this study very interesting. It backs up what my subs and I have experienced while engaging in SM and Power Exchange. I do wonder if a dominant sadist would have different results than a dom who is not a sadist? Either way, BDSM feels good when it’s done right.)

This study resulted from a collaboration between the University of Antwerp and Club 78, a Belgium based BDSM club. Their research team has just finished the first biological BDSM research project worldwide, in which we investigated how BDSM interactions affect blood-based biomarkers for stress (cortisol), pleasure (beta-endorphin, endocannabinoids AEA and 2-AG), sexuality (estrogen, testosterone) and attachment (oxytocin) in Dominants and submissives.

The aim of the study was to shed light upon the rewarding biological mechanisms associated with BDSM interactions. To do so, Dominant and submissive counterparts of 35 BDSM couples were recruited through Fetlife, and by word-of-mouth within the Belgian BDSM community. In order to control for social evening interaction effects, non-BDSM interested controls (n=27) were recruited at the bar of a local sports club and by word-of-mouth. We compared the evolution of the stress and reward hormone levels of cortisol, beta-endorphins and endocannabinoids (2AG and AEA) in a group of BDSM practitioners before and after an active BDSM interaction with the levels in control individuals. Results We showed that submissives showed increases in cortisol levels due to BDSM interactions. Endocannabinoid levels in submissives increased during the play compared to the control group, but no such increase was observed in dominants. However, when taking play type into account, dominants showed a significant increase in endocannabinoids associated with power play but not with pain play. 
Even though this is one of the first studies of its kind, we can conclude that there is a clear indication for increased pleasure in submissives when looking at biological effects of a BDSM interaction, which was related to the increases in experienced stress.

Link to full paper. (Click on the blue button ‘View Full-Text’ below the page for the full paper) :

Happy New Year! 2020

Happy New year to all. I did have sound with the above clip but I cannot make it work on here it seems. So! I just wanted to wish everyone a wonderful 2020!

Last year, I had to take a step away from the scene because my partner was diagnosed with late stage kidney cancer. He fought courageously throughout his treatment but passed away on June 17, 2019. As you can imagine, I was quite devastated. I needed some time to grieve and adjust to life without him. I am very blessed and thankful to have so many amazing people in my life who were there for me. You are the best! Their support helped me to heal and to become a more stronger person.

I am dedicating 2020 to be a year of Self Improvement and Empowerment. To celebrate who I am now but also who I have the potential to be. I am setting high but realistic goals for myself to achieve. I will also acknowledge the beauty and strength of others by empowering them to grow to their highest potential. It’s time to start lifting each other up instead of tearing each other down. As a Mistress, I have the unique opportunity to do this with my submissives. It is said that there is endless paths to enlightenment. Let the journey begin!

Expect to see much more of me on social media this year. I will be focusing on some new exciting projects! I will be posting more details soon!

Mistress Eva Lordes

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Happy Holidays!

I want to wish everyone a fun Happy Holidays/Christmas! If you have to travel, be safe out there. I want to give thanks to everyone who has sent me good wishes! Thanks to my subs and Jordan for all the great gifts that I have received. You are the best!

Anyone who wishes to send me a gift can simply send me a Amazon E Gift card! They must be sent to:

You can also go to my “Gifts” page for more gift options.

I am mainly taking today and tomorrow off so I can spend some time with my family and friends. My Mother is cooking up some epic meals for us! I will be back to my normal schedule this Thursday!

I may get on Niteflirt for a while later. So look for me. 1-800-863-5478 ext: 9439577

BIG HINT: Niteflirt accepts money gift cards with the Mastercard or Visa Logo. So you can call me using all those Money Gift Cards you get for Christmas! They are in fact the gift that keeps on giving!

In Kink,

Mistress Eva Lordes


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I am no longer using

For people unfamiliar with what is, it is an universal wish list service that is supposedly more “adult friendly.” Its more secure because the buyer has no way to access your personal information. They also have an option to receive tributes. I had heard stories about how some guys had found ways to get the personal info. of Mistresses etc. with Amazon wish lists. So I am only using my Amazon wish list for subs to send me Amazon E Gift Cards. I loved how discreet Deliverycode’s service was so I had been using them exclusively for my gifts.

I got a nice gift purchased off my wish list during the Holidays. It was bought by a long time trustworthy sub of mine. I could see on my account that he bought it but it never posted an update of it being delivered. It never got delivered to my house. I rechecked my mailing address listed for deliveries and it was correct.

I contacted my sub to let him know what had happened and he promptly contacted Deliverycode via email. After several attempts, he has never gotten an actual response from them. So I tried to message them. I get a verification email that they got my message but I have yet to receive any responses after several attempts. I cannot find a 1-800 number for them.

It would have been nice to have received some kind of response even if it was not their fault. Possibly an recommendation on how to proceed would have been greatly appreciated! Just ignoring our messages was just unprofessional. So I will no longer be using Deliverycode for my Universal wish list.

My Reflections of 2018.

My Holidays were hectic but very nice overall. In mid December, my area got close to a foot of snow. For Southerners, that’s like having a blizzard! As beautiful as it was, it took days for my side street to get safe enough for travel. About the time I got caught up on my rescheduled sessions, it was time to start Christmas shopping and planning time to see my family. I truly enjoyed spending time with my blood family over the Holidays. There was less of us this year but everyone got along! With all the gifts exchanged, that was the biggest gift of them all. I also want to thank all my lovely subs who sent me gifts and tributes for the Holidays. I will truly enjoy them.

I chose to have a quiet New Year Eve celebration. I took some time to just relax with a couple glasses of wine. I wanted to appreciate the many blessings I have in my life. After my family’s traditional New Year Dinner, I took some time to reflect on this past year, and wrote down my thoughts. I cannot lie, I am glad 2018 is over.

This past year certainly had its high and low points. What stands out for me in 2018 was when the FOSTA/SESTA bills were voted into action. We saw the end of the adult sections on Craigslist, BP, and other smaller sites. I agree that human trafficking needs to end but taking away their visibility makes them harder to find? These bills have also affected people who had nothing to do with these criminals. Including many in the Domination business like myself. I started as a part time Dominatrix in the 1990s while still working a full time vanilla job. It was not until 2003 that I finally felt ready to become a full time Dominatrix. I assumed that as time passed that society would become more open minded and compassionate toward people with different sexual orientations and what I do. I thought our country would progress not regress but sadly, I was wrong.

So 2018 became a year of adaption because either I could retire or I had to work smarter. I chose the latter but with it brought many changes, challenges, failures and triumphs. Through it all, I have grown a lot as a Mistress and overall I have become a much wiser Woman. There might be more battles ahead but I will never stop fighting for what I love and believe in. I am very fortunate to have the support and guidance of so many wonderful friends, subs and my chosen family (Thank You!). When I get frustrated or ready to say, “fuck it” I remind myself how truly blessed I am.

My website, was totally redesigned by ME which I am very proud of. I no longer need to pay someone to update my websites. I began this blog which is still in the beginning stages. I am still revamping my site, and it should be done in about a month.

In 2018 I finally bit the bullet and began to produce and sell my own BDSM video clips. This is an area of expertise that I am still having to learn from the bottom up. There is a lot more work involved in it than most people realize. To the ones kicking ass producing clips, I salute you! I am still learning about video production and editing. I hope to invest in a new video camera and a better video editing software this year. I have made sixteen Fetish POV and BDSM clips so far. I am in the planning phase to produce many more clips this year

I launched my clips4sale site:

I am still kicking ass on Niteflirt. I wish I could thank the sub who in 2000 asked me if I was on that site. Because at that point I had never heard of Niteflirt or even considered doing Phone Domination. He thought I would be good at it and he was right. I have so much fun with it! I am still revamping my site, but I hope to have it done in the next month.

This past summer, North Carolina was hit by both Hurricane Florence and Michael. Our area got record breaking rain and the Triangle ended up having the wettest year on record. Except for my basement flooding some, I had no damage to my property. I feel very fortunate because my state’s southern coastline got devastated. My heart goes out to them as many are still rebuilding their lives.

Last but never least, my beautiful feline Queen Taz was diagnosed with advanced kidney failure in March 2018. She fought a hard fight but at age Seventeen, it was her time to go over the rainbow bridge. I rescued her two weeks old litter after her Mother was found dead. The moment I saw her, that little puffball stole my heart. I was still working over 40 hours a week at the time, but somehow I was able to bottle feed and ween all of them at four weeks. The others found loving homes. For seventeen years, she stayed by my side. Much longer than many of my lovers did. At my lowest she would lay on my chest and stare down at me with her wise “Yoda” look to remind me that everything was going to be OK. I will always miss her. I now have Gilbert and Beau, two big furry boys that I adopted from a local kill shelter.

To wrap things up. As hard as 2018 was for me, there were many good things that happened too. I grew and discovered things about myself that I never expected. I am much more stronger and resilient than I ever realized. I am thankful for the people who have positively impacted my life. I also realized it was time to let go of situations and people who were not good for me. As I enter this near year, I bring more confidence and hope with me. With a new year, comes a chance for new beginnings. I am excited to see what reflections I will be writing about next year.

Rest in Peace my beautiful Queen Taz.

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RIP Goddess Sadie Hawkins

With much sadness, one of our community’s shining lights, Sadie Hawkins has passed away. We have lost an amazing Pro-Domme to a senseless act of violence. A gofundme account has been set up. This money will go to her family in case they need help with her services or any other expenses they may have.

If you can, please contribute.…

The 2018 North Carolina Snow Apocalypse

My beautiful Cypress after a foot of Snow.

I ended up having about a foot of snow and sleet in Durham last weekend! It was beautiful and like a winter wonderland here. The downside was my road did not get treated beforehand! I live on a slight hill so I was stuck at home with a major case of cabin fever.  Thankfully, my street is now clear! I am still catching up on the sessions I had to reschedule but I am now prebooking for live sessions this weekend onward! I require at least 24 notice to book a Session. Especially with new subs. Email me to book a session.

Go to my updated website for more information about my sessions, rates and schedule.

Happy Holidays! Mistress Eva


Are you wanting to learn how to spice things up or even possibly become a skilled submissive or Dominant?

How BDSM is usually portrayed by mainstream media is not how its done in reality. In reality, people who engage in BDSM strive for their play to be safe, sane, and consensual.

In my classes, I teach about BDSM, Fetishes and how to do it in a hot but safe manner. I teach proper technique in various forms of BDSM play. I also teach about the psychological side of being a Dominant or a submissive and how to nurture healthy D/s relationships.

My classes are open to all genders and orientations. Individual and Couples Classes are available.

I am Mistress Eva Lordes and I am Lifestyle and Professional Mistress with over Twenty years experience dominating submissives. I am also a skilled Erotic Sadist and Fetishist. I am one of the longest established Professional Dominatrixes in North Carolina. I have attended numerous BDSM workshops and conventions across the East Coast. Through the years I have had many hot scenes privately and in my professional sessions. I have also collared some wonderful subs. Through these experiences, I have gained a lot of knowledge about BDSM play and the D/s dynamic. It’s my passion to educate people about BDSM and D/s relationships.

My classes are custom made to what you would like to learn and your current experience level. Understand what you tell me is purely confidential. Your privacy and safety is always my top priority. It’s important that we establish Trust so that you will feel comfortable opening up to me about your desires.

BDSM Classes can be conducted at my private, well equipped Dungeon in Durham, North Carolina. If you need a more intimate atmosphere, I can meet you at an upscale hotel near me. I do not go to private homes. Some classes can be done by Phone or Cam. Contact me for more details.

Class Rates:

Individual: $50.00 per hour

Couples: $100.00 per hour

Classes are by appointment only. Partial deposit required.

Understand that these classes are purely instructional and I will not be playing with you.

For Questions about my BDSM Classes or scheduling a class, email me first: