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I am no longer using

For people unfamiliar with what is, it is an universal wish list service that is supposedly more “adult friendly.” Its more secure because the buyer has no way to access your personal information. They also have an option to receive tributes. I had heard stories about how some guys had found ways to get the personal info. of Mistresses etc. with Amazon wish lists. So I am only using my Amazon wish list for subs to send me Amazon E Gift Cards. I loved how discreet Deliverycode’s service was so I had been using them exclusively for my gifts.

I got a nice gift purchased off my wish list during the Holidays. It was bought by a long time trustworthy sub of mine. I could see on my account that he bought it but it never posted an update of it being delivered. It never got delivered to my house. I rechecked my mailing address listed for deliveries and it was correct.

I contacted my sub to let him know what had happened and he promptly contacted Deliverycode via email. After several attempts, he has never gotten an actual response from them. So I tried to message them. I get a verification email that they got my message but I have yet to receive any responses after several attempts. I cannot find a 1-800 number for them.

It would have been nice to have received some kind of response even if it was not their fault. Possibly an recommendation on how to proceed would have been greatly appreciated! Just ignoring our messages was just unprofessional. So I will no longer be using Deliverycode for my Universal wish list.

My Reflections of 2018.

My Holidays were hectic but very nice overall. In mid December, my area got close to a foot of snow. For Southerners, that’s like having a blizzard! As beautiful as it was, it took days for my side street to get safe enough for travel. About the time I got caught up on my rescheduled sessions, it was time to start Christmas shopping and planning time to see my family. I truly enjoyed spending time with my blood family over the Holidays. There was less of us this year but everyone got along! With all the gifts exchanged, that was the biggest gift of them all. I also want to thank all my lovely subs who sent me gifts and tributes for the Holidays. I will truly enjoy them.

I chose to have a quiet New Year Eve celebration. I took some time to just relax with a couple glasses of wine. I wanted to appreciate the many blessings I have in my life. After my family’s traditional New Year Dinner, I took some time to reflect on this past year, and wrote down my thoughts. I cannot lie, I am glad 2018 is over.

This past year certainly had its high and low points. What stands out for me in 2018 was when the FOSTA/SESTA bills were voted into action. We saw the end of the adult sections on Craigslist, BP, and other smaller sites. I agree that human trafficking needs to end but taking away their visibility makes them harder to find? These bills have also affected people who had nothing to do with these criminals. Including many in the Domination business like myself. I started as a part time Dominatrix in the 1990s while still working a full time vanilla job. It was not until 2003 that I finally felt ready to become a full time Dominatrix. I assumed that as time passed that society would become more open minded and compassionate toward people with different sexual orientations and what I do. I thought our country would progress not regress but sadly, I was wrong.

So 2018 became a year of adaption because either I could retire or I had to work smarter. I chose the latter but with it brought many changes, challenges, failures and triumphs. Through it all, I have grown a lot as a Mistress and overall I have become a much wiser Woman. There might be more battles ahead but I will never stop fighting for what I love and believe in. I am very fortunate to have the support and guidance of so many wonderful friends, subs and my chosen family (Thank You!). When I get frustrated or ready to say, “fuck it” I remind myself how truly blessed I am.

My website, was totally redesigned by ME which I am very proud of. I no longer need to pay someone to update my websites. I began this blog which is still in the beginning stages. I am still revamping my site, and it should be done in about a month.

In 2018 I finally bit the bullet and began to produce and sell my own BDSM video clips. This is an area of expertise that I am still having to learn from the bottom up. There is a lot more work involved in it than most people realize. To the ones kicking ass producing clips, I salute you! I am still learning about video production and editing. I hope to invest in a new video camera and a better video editing software this year. I have made sixteen Fetish POV and BDSM clips so far. I am in the planning phase to produce many more clips this year

I launched my clips4sale site:

I am still kicking ass on Niteflirt. I wish I could thank the sub who in 2000 asked me if I was on that site. Because at that point I had never heard of Niteflirt or even considered doing Phone Domination. He thought I would be good at it and he was right. I have so much fun with it! I am still revamping my site, but I hope to have it done in the next month.

This past summer, North Carolina was hit by both Hurricane Florence and Michael. Our area got record breaking rain and the Triangle ended up having the wettest year on record. Except for my basement flooding some, I had no damage to my property. I feel very fortunate because my state’s southern coastline got devastated. My heart goes out to them as many are still rebuilding their lives.

Last but never least, my beautiful feline Queen Taz was diagnosed with advanced kidney failure in March 2018. She fought a hard fight but at age Seventeen, it was her time to go over the rainbow bridge. I rescued her two weeks old litter after her Mother was found dead. The moment I saw her, that little puffball stole my heart. I was still working over 40 hours a week at the time, but somehow I was able to bottle feed and ween all of them at four weeks. The others found loving homes. For seventeen years, she stayed by my side. Much longer than many of my lovers did. At my lowest she would lay on my chest and stare down at me with her wise “Yoda” look to remind me that everything was going to be OK. I will always miss her. I now have Gilbert and Beau, two big furry boys that I adopted from a local kill shelter.

To wrap things up. As hard as 2018 was for me, there were many good things that happened too. I grew and discovered things about myself that I never expected. I am much more stronger and resilient than I ever realized. I am thankful for the people who have positively impacted my life. I also realized it was time to let go of situations and people who were not good for me. As I enter this near year, I bring more confidence and hope with me. With a new year, comes a chance for new beginnings. I am excited to see what reflections I will be writing about next year.

Rest in Peace my beautiful Queen Taz.

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RIP Goddess Sadie Hawkins

With much sadness, one of our community’s shining lights, Sadie Hawkins has passed away. We have lost an amazing Pro-Domme to a senseless act of violence. A gofundme account has been set up. This money will go to her family in case they need help with her services or any other expenses they may have.

If you can, please contribute.…

The 2018 North Carolina Snow Apocalypse

My beautiful Cypress after a foot of Snow.

I ended up having about a foot of snow and sleet in Durham last weekend! It was beautiful and like a winter wonderland here. The downside was my road did not get treated beforehand! I live on a slight hill so I was stuck at home with a major case of cabin fever.  Thankfully, my street is now clear! I am still catching up on the sessions I had to reschedule but I am now prebooking for live sessions this weekend onward! I require at least 24 notice to book a Session. Especially with new subs. Email me to book a session.

Go to my updated website for more information about my sessions, rates and schedule.

Happy Holidays! Mistress Eva


Are you wanting to learn how to spice things up or even possibly become a skilled submissive or Dominant?

How BDSM is usually portrayed by mainstream media is not how its done in reality. In reality, people who engage in BDSM strive for their play to be safe, sane, and consensual.

In my classes, I teach about BDSM, Fetishes and how to do it in a hot but safe manner. I teach proper technique in various forms of BDSM play. I also teach about the psychological side of being a Dominant or a submissive and how to nurture healthy D/s relationships.

My classes are open to all genders and orientations. Individual and Couples Classes are available.

I am Mistress Eva Lordes and I am Lifestyle and Professional Mistress with over Twenty years experience dominating submissives. I am also a skilled Erotic Sadist and Fetishist. I am one of the longest established Professional Dominatrixes in North Carolina. I have attended numerous BDSM workshops and conventions across the East Coast. Through the years I have had many hot scenes privately and in my professional sessions. I have also collared some wonderful subs. Through these experiences, I have gained a lot of knowledge about BDSM play and the D/s dynamic. It’s my passion to educate people about BDSM and D/s relationships.

My classes are custom made to what you would like to learn and your current experience level. Understand what you tell me is purely confidential. Your privacy and safety is always my top priority. It’s important that we establish Trust so that you will feel comfortable opening up to me about your desires.

BDSM Classes can be conducted at my private, well equipped Dungeon in Durham, North Carolina. If you need a more intimate atmosphere, I can meet you at an upscale hotel near me. I do not go to private homes. Some classes can be done by Phone or Cam. Contact me for more details.

Class Rates:

Individual: $50.00 per hour

Couples: $100.00 per hour

Classes are by appointment only. Partial deposit required.

Understand that these classes are purely instructional and I will not be playing with you.

For Questions about my BDSM Classes or scheduling a class, email me first:



I am going to PUSH in Durham, NC 12/02/17!

I will be attending PUSH 12/02/17.

This is one of Durham, North Carolina’s only Fetish/BDSM/Pansexual Events so I always try to make a point to attend. I will not be doing any kind of pay Domination Sessions at this event, but its a great way to meet me at a kink friendly public event and introduce yourself.

18 and over to get in the door.

$20 in fetish attire
$40 in sharp, all black
No admission in street or casual wear

Contact me for more details:

Mistress Eva Lordes

A review from one of my subs.

Review – Mistress Eva Lordes, Durham, NC

Visit, second half of October 2017

I was allowed to visit Mistress Eva Lordes in Her dungeon in Durham. It was an incredible experience and I am happy to share it here.

I have been in the lifestyle for many years, but I have not been active for a long time due to personal circumstances.

Now, I am ready to get back into the lifestyle again and a good start is really important to me.

There are Pro Dommes of very varying qualities and qualifications. Just as there are good and bad doctors, lawyers, mechanics, etc., out there. So for your own sake, do your homework.

I had one session with Mistress Eva Lordes a number of years ago, so I knew firsthand how skilled and serious Mistress is.

Mistress Eva Lordes is also very well known in the lifestyle community. She has a very informative and serious website. Mistress has an incredible amount of experience and has probably tried more than most can even dream of. From mild to wild.
And Mistress has a very nice dungeon that is equipped with the right high quality tools and toys to take you to heaven.

So to contact Mistress Eva Lordes and ask if She would grant me a session, was the obvious choice for me. And I am so happy that Mistress did exactly that.

Prior to the session I shared my situation and background with Mistress. And when I arrived, Mistress took additional time to talk to me. Mistress was very focused on ensuring that I was at ease and encouraged me to talk through my experiences and preferences. I tried to share this with Mistress, but still felt I had given Her little to work with. But what a ride it was when Mistress had me down on my knees.

Mistress’s demeanor was incredibly dominant and confident. Mistress knew exactly what buttons to push, to put me in my place.  Slaps in the face, pulling of the nipples, and a few select words brought me totally in my place and in the zone — in no time.
And from there, Mistress simply started working on me. Taking Her time, ensuring I was with Her all the way.

Being on my knees, kissing Mistress’s one boot, while Mistress forces my head down with Her other boot. Or being on my back on the floor, with Mistress placing Her boots on my chest, groin, head, and hard on my throat and neck. What bliss.  I completely spaced out everything but Mistress. Lost track of time.

The same can be said about my long time strapped to the cross in Mistress’s dungeon. I just lost track of time, while Mistress systematically worked all the way up and down my body, with floggers, whips, paddles, crops, and canes.

There was a flow and an ebb that was indescribable, augmented by the music Mistress had put on and by Mistress talking to me during this, both to ensure I was with Her, but also so that I understood completely who and what I was at that moment.  Her submissive, (one can only wish to become Mistress’s slave), to do with as She pleased.
This was not a scripted session. Mistress was in total charge, and it felt so incredibly liberating. Yes, there were times where Mistress pushed me. It was so clear though, that Mistress knew exactly what She was doing.

Eventually, Mistress slowly brought me back to the surface, taking pleasure in yanking off the nipple clamps and giving my nipples a hard work over first though. But yes, Mistress allowed me to slowly surface.  And afterwards, Mistress took Her time for the aftercare and making sure I was okay to drive home.

This also stretched to sending me an email to ask how I was doing later in the night.

On top of all this, I have to admit that Mistress is extremely good looking. Looking as good as Mistress does, really does not impact how good a Dominant Mistress is, but still, wow 🙂


So where does this leave me? The simple answer: It leaves me looking so much forward to — craving — the next time, I can kneel before Mistress and let Her take the total lead.


If you are a novice or not into much pain, or if you are nervous, do not let this scare you. Mistress Eva Lordes is very skilled at understanding you and structuring your time to you and your comfort level of submission and pain.

Just be honest and open about it. And be polite and show respect, as you would when sitting in front of your doctor or lawyer.

There are infinite ways of being Dominant and submissive, and here you can rest assured, you are in the most capable hands.